Statistics - intimate partner violence

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence estimates that 1 in 3 women in the US have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime; YET only about 1/4 of all physical assaults, 1/5 of all rapes, and 1/2 of all stalkings perpetuated against females by intimate partners are ever reported to the police. So, while the actual numbers are probably much higher here's what we do know:

Since roughly one out of three women will experience intimate partner violence in her lifetime, it’s likely that you - or someone you love - has survived this kind of violence.


“Domestic violence is about one person getting and keeping power and control over another person in an intimate relationship.  It is a pattern of behavior in which one intimate partner uses physical violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation and emotional, sexual or economic abuse to control and change the behavior of the other partner.  The abusive person might be your current or former spouse, live-in lover or dating partner.” (

Note: Different states have different laws on what relationship status is required to qualify as an incident of domestic violence. Typically, states recognize domestic violence if the victim and the perpetrator are currently or have been married, living together or have a child together. These state requirements are incomplete, because they do not account for all victims of domestic violence including teen dating violence, non-live in significant others, and violence perpetrated by other relatives.


Domestic violence goes beyond physical abuse. The Duluth Model of Power and Control demonstrates the many ways a victim may experience abuse.

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) has created a checklist to help identify abusive behavior in a partner: